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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #15 on: June 09, 2008, 08:40:24 PM »
If I had a dollar for every girl problem I've had we could open up an actual Bastard Bar.

Eh... wot??

The Bastard Bar 'is' real.  Reports to the contrary are... well... contrary.

It's the tabs that aren't real. At least not real in the sense that they'll ever be paid.

That would be less of a problem if you would stop inviting Night Owl.
Me? I thought you were inviting him...

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there are invitations?

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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #16 on: June 09, 2008, 09:24:27 PM »
I thought the tab was the thing you pulled on to get the beer.

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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #17 on: June 09, 2008, 10:02:51 PM »
I thought the tab was the thing you pulled on to get the beer.

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"for the record, I'm not some kind of psychotic provincialist." - Than (ed: Cit. required)
"I lost my game of NT: Garry's fault. Global warming: Garry's fault. End-of-the-Universe: Garry's fault. See it always fits. Anyway, what is Garry up to? No good I bet." - Laszlo
"As for your French, it's probably better than the average English-speaking Frenchman's Finnish! (Or something.)" - wa
"I'm back at Thunderfalls now and every minute thinking of poking a bandit in the eye with a fishhook." - Preyveil
"and yet still nothing has made it to BC's signature!"-KMD

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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #19 on: June 12, 2008, 03:12:04 PM »
You're a terrible, nasty man BC; I have enough fodder for nightmares in my life without seeing that image.

Just for that I think you should get me a beer at the bastard bar... on owls tab of course.

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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #20 on: June 12, 2008, 05:11:30 PM »
You're a terrible, nasty man BC; I have enough fodder for nightmares in my life without seeing that image.

Just for that I think you should get me a beer at the bastard bar... on owls tab of course.

How odd... I thought everyone used Owl's tab at the Bastard Bar.

*shrug*
"for the record, I'm not some kind of psychotic provincialist." - Than (ed: Cit. required)
"I lost my game of NT: Garry's fault. Global warming: Garry's fault. End-of-the-Universe: Garry's fault. See it always fits. Anyway, what is Garry up to? No good I bet." - Laszlo
"As for your French, it's probably better than the average English-speaking Frenchman's Finnish! (Or something.)" - wa
"I'm back at Thunderfalls now and every minute thinking of poking a bandit in the eye with a fishhook." - Preyveil
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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #21 on: June 12, 2008, 07:53:33 PM »
How odd... I thought everyone used Owl's tab at the Bastard Bar.

*shrug*

oh.... i've been using yours....
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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #22 on: June 13, 2008, 06:42:59 AM »
Dude, you are like me when I am much younger.  You take interactions between the sexes too seriously, thus you can't relax and aren't able to show off your charming confident self. 

I assume you dress well, are clean cut, and takes care of yourself.  So don't take all the girls as the last one/or the one until you have the time to find out.

And hon, you rushed the girl for a decision.  How much time did you Actually spent alone with her?  Have you gotten to know the "real" her aside from the goddessness?  I mean, even Belledandy has faults, and gets insanely jealous. 

Men have tendency to obsess over things, call it genetic predisposition to  chase things.  Get out there, relax, make friends, and see where that takes you.  Don't be like my friend 3-4 dates in, she was thinking whether or not this was the one, and that ended badly.  Take it easy, dude.
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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #23 on: December 27, 2008, 01:47:30 PM »
WTF IS IT WITH YOU WOMEN?!  YOU'RE ALL EITHER BATSHIT INSANE OR YOU LIKE PLAYING PUPPET MASTER WITH ME OR WHAT?!  I DON'T EVEN KNOW!  I GIVE UP!  I FLAT OUT GIVE UP TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT THE DEAL IS WITH YOU ALL?  ARE YOU HAPPY?!  YOU'VE OFFICIALLY WORN A MAN OUT AT 25, THAT HAS TO BE SOME KIND OF ACCOMPLISHMENT FOR THE GENDER?!  ARE YOU PROUD NOW?!  DO YOU WIN SOME KIND OF TROPHY FOR SENDING ALL THE MIXED SIGNALS?  BRA_FOK_VO!

Edit: You may disregard the above post as the natural outcome of a bad drunken sexual episode.
« Last Edit: December 28, 2008, 12:15:24 AM by Loveshack »
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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #24 on: December 28, 2008, 01:33:39 AM »
WTF IS IT WITH YOU WOMEN?!  YOU'RE ALL EITHER BATSHIT INSANE OR YOU LIKE PLAYING PUPPET MASTER WITH ME OR WHAT?!  I DON'T EVEN KNOW!  I GIVE UP!  I FLAT OUT GIVE UP TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT THE DEAL IS WITH YOU ALL?  ARE YOU HAPPY?!  YOU'VE OFFICIALLY WORN A MAN OUT AT 25, THAT HAS TO BE SOME KIND OF ACCOMPLISHMENT FOR THE GENDER?!  ARE YOU PROUD NOW?!  DO YOU WIN SOME KIND OF TROPHY FOR SENDING ALL THE MIXED SIGNALS?  BRA_FOK_VO!

Edit: You may disregard the above post as the natural outcome of a bad drunken sexual episode.

Hugs. I must get really bad for Loveshack to get mad because you're normally happy and good natured.

Geez... I don't know what to really tell you. Maybe sharing some experiences from the other side will help.

I know the reverse has happened to me in the past. What I thought was SUPER CLEAR AND STRAIGHTFORWARD got twisted around. I didn't hint or do vague references in those sentences/converstaions. I said something that I thought was clear and it became something else. Accepting a offer to use your landline inside your house (before cell phones were more widespread isn't acceptance on my part for sex.

So perhaps it just a case of He Said / She Said?

That said there are women who aren't straightforward. eg. Can't bring themselves to say they don't like you (or perhaps they don't know if they DO or DON'T like you). That seems to be a issue with some of my male friends. Likewise there are men that are convinced that 80% (if not higher) of what you say is an invitation or just plain confusion.

Shrug.

Maybe you need a platonic female friend that'll interpret conversations for you. Eventually you'll understand more of the meaning?

Communication between the sexes gets easier as you get older if that's anything...

ps. I have hinted sometimes if I think the subject matter is ok and not something highly important. That's to give a gentle nudge and it sounds nicer. eg. "Yawn. It's late!" "My head hurts. Probably because I haven't had my coffee today." (I won't get mad if they don't get it. I'll just get more direct if needed.) "JEN NEED COFFEE NOW!!!!!" Then I will grab the steering wheel and jerk it to the right, over the landscaping and onto the parking lot of Einstein Bagels. Although that's somewhat rare. I find myself mainly phrasing things like: "Would you mind stopping for coffee? or "Would you mind if we left in 15 minutes?"
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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #25 on: December 28, 2008, 07:57:53 AM »
What happened concerns the girl from Love Stinks part I.  She and I and some other high school/college friends got together because we were all in town for the holidays.  The other men at the party are engaged.  All night long she kept "letting slip" that she had broken up with her boyfriend.  Like three different times.  The drinking and such carried on through the night, and the other friends kept suggesting we get together.  She and I both sort of laughed it off.  We wound up back at one of her friend's places around three am with one of her lady friends and a guy friend.  Drinking excessively for a while.  Her lady friend and this other guy hook up despite having just met.  This girl, who I'll remind everyone I've known for 20 years, just wants to sleep.  Alone.  I am drunk, and I'm not even offered the courtesy of a couch.  But I have a car and the other guy doesn't, besides he's busy.  I'm really not good to drive, but I don't have any other option really.  I say my goodbyes, and leave.  On the way home, I cannot figure out what the hell just happened.  Things were looking good there for a while.
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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #26 on: December 28, 2008, 08:48:00 AM »
It may be of small comfort to you, but even though you had to drive under the influence, I feel that you did the right thing.

I think that your friend is confused.  Trust me, I know how frustrating it can be when you have what is to you a blatantly
obvious answer to the questions of a relationship, and the other person just can't seem to get there. It's maddening.
There's really nothing you can do to bring that person to a less confused state, either. To try do so just frustrates the two
of you.

Alcohol and such a confused state really only make the person more confused. The mixed signals come fast and furious after
a drink or two, and to act on them would only bring heartache.

Now speaking as a very old person who has had his heart broken more times than he cares to remember, please let me offer
some advice and please feel free to ignore it completely if it doesn't fit. I really won't mind if you do so. ;-)

Methinks that you should begin to look elsewhere for a less confused person. Maybe, in time, your ladyfriend may come to the
conclusion that you ARE the one for her, perhaps not. But on NO ACCOUNT should you put your life on hold to wait for such
a decision. Life is too short and too precious to be wasted "waiting for an answer". In my 42+ years on this earth, I've
never received the answer that I wanted. You could be different though. Like I said before, feel free to toss this in the rubbish.

You're a great person, and someone, somewhere will see that in the future. She may not even be anyone you know now or
expect. These things seem to revel in serendipity (A word I love, btw) and blindside you when you least expect it.

All this doesn't ease any of the pain in your heart, I'm sure. That takes time. Just do the best to have fun and live life to the
fullest. Enjoy yourself. If that person doesn't want to be with you, then just move on and don't let it stain you.
You WILL meet better people. I am certain of this. Being happy and having fun attracts more happiness and fun (It works like a
charm for me!).

Take care mate, even if you think I'm full of hot air, I still wish you the best in whatever you decide to do.

Sincerely,
-Kama-
« Last Edit: December 28, 2008, 08:55:00 AM by Kama »

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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #27 on: December 28, 2008, 09:22:13 AM »
I don't know if this will help you at all, but you never know, so here we go.

Nobody I've ever had a relationship has been somebody who I've known for long.  Generally they've been girls I've met in passing, through a friend-of-a-friend or even just through one of the groups I'm involved with (the most recent being the director of a play I was in last year)

Going from friendship to relationship CAN work, it's true, but the risks are FAR greater.  The better the friendship is, the more likely it is that one side or the other will be unwilling to take that risk.

One of the worst things you can do though is play the "I'd be better for her than her boyfriend" game.  That's just out-of-the-blue advice because it's a trap a LOT of guys fall into.  Not saying you will, but you could.  In any case, it's bad news.  So don't do it.  It's like crack but more destructive.

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Re: Love Stinks Part II: The New Beginning
« Reply #28 on: December 28, 2008, 09:54:19 AM »
1. If you want to keep being friends with this girl, you've really got to get your shit together. Drunk or not, when you make comments like you just did, you've got some serious fucking issues that have nothing to do with sobriety.

2. If your aim is still to get together with this girl, you need to have your head examined. This wasn't a 'bad sexual episode', it was you being drunk and stupid.

3. Next time, take a cab. You're 25 years old so stop acting like a child.

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« Reply #29 on: December 28, 2008, 11:13:05 AM »
1. If you want to keep being friends with this girl, you've really got to get your shit together. Drunk or not, when you make comments like you just did, you've got some serious fucking issues that have nothing to do with sobriety.

2. If your aim is still to get together with this girl, you need to have your head examined. This wasn't a 'bad sexual episode', it was you being drunk and stupid.

3. Next time, take a cab. You're 25 years old so stop acting like a child.

Much as I appreciate the insight, MY behavior does not confuse and confound me.  Your thoughts on HER behavior would be nice.  And yes, there was drunken stupidity throughout the evening, all around.  I should also add that she kept volunteering information that I would be inclined to think a girl would make up just to screw with men.  You know... "I've liked the few pornos I've seen."  "I sometimes wonder what it'd be like to be with a woman."  That kind of thing.  Inserted into the conversation, in apropo of nothing I or anyone else said.

Now imagine this sort of thing going on for years, waxing and waning like cycles of the moon.  You starting to see what my issue is?  I don't know what her deal is.  Kama seems to be close to the mark though, I think she's confused, and I am too, and booze probably didn't help things.
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