Okay, so I'm working for the Census Bureau right now, and I didn't know any of the people I work with before six weeks ago. I don't dislike any of them or anything, but I don't consider any of them my friends either. I'm pretty indifferent. One of them asked me to help him move a vanity from his house to another house which will take about two hours. He offered no compensation. Here lies the problem. I HATE moving. If I'm available and a friend or family member asks, then I do it anyway because there's a certain social obligation to help friends and family in exchange for the fellowship you enjoy with them and also because I care about them and their well being. Usually some form of compensation is offered in these cases, but not always, and I don't ask about it in those cases for the reasons mentioned above.
In this guy's case, I am able to help him, but I am not necessarily willing, and I certainly don't feel I have any social obligation to help him because he is neither friend nor family, is basically a stranger, and is asking for a significant amount of time and labor from me for which he has offered no compensation. However, it's a bit of a lose/lose situation because if I help him, I am resentful he asked me, and if I don't help him, I feel guilty because I was able to help but didn't and I either have to tell him a lie, or I have to tell him the truth which would doubtless cause problems in the workplace.
Am I being an asshole here and failing to conform to the social contract, or is he the asshole for doing this? Or is it a little from column A to column B?
I'm just going to start carrying a copy of Atlas Shrugged around in plain sight so people quit involving me in these situations altogether.