Love stinks.

[Loveshack]

So, a little background...

Loveshack has known a girl since Kindergarten.

Loveshack begins to feel a little more than friendship for girl around end of high school.

Loveshack is madly in love with girl by end of freshman year of college.

Girl doesn't love Loveshack in that way.

Girl begins dating another guy she met at college while Loveshack stayed at home for another year.  Things were looking up for Loveshack until this point. 

Loveshack can't take hint and carries not-so-secret torch for the next seven years in the hopes that his life will play out like the magical fairy tale he hoped it would be.

Loveshack goes to college with girl the following year, but girl is now in dating other guy.  (Other guy, unfortunately, seems like a decent guy, but not as decent as Loveshack.)

Loveshack does some things that could be construed as "stalkerish".  (Not literally, but you know, flowers on her birthday and Valentine's day, that sort of thing.  Girl is single for the most part during all this barring a few on-again-off-agains.  Loveshack just didn't know any better because he has no experience in things like this.)
Loveshack and girl remain "friends" because Loveshack does an Academy Award-worthy performance where he denies having feelings for girl anymore after realizing that A.  Girl is not "the one" Loveshack built her up to be in his head.  (Loveshack still wants her.) and B. There comes a time when Loveshack realizes that he needs to cut his losses and move on because he lives in the real world, not in the movies he was taking his relationship advice from to compensate for lack of experience.  (Loveshack finds "moving on" is easier in theory than in practice)

Girl never really says that she and other guy are in an official relationship, making things very confusing for Loveshack.  Is new guy simply "in the way"?

Girl says she and other guy are in an official relationship.  Loveshack hates new guy.  How could new guy do this to Loveshack?  Loveshack didn't do anything to new guy!  New guy just decided to wreck Loveshack's life.  Bastard.

Loveshack decides to bow out because it's "the right thing to do".  Loveshack hopes girl and new guy's relationship falls apart in a spectacular fashion.  Partly out of spite towards girl for rejecting Loveshack; partly so Loveshack can be the hero and "rescue" the girl.

Fast forward to present:  Loveshack still vehemently denies attraction to girl, though friends all know the truth.  Girl posts bulletin on Facebook saying she hopes the "big news" goes over well.

Loveshack freaks out because there are really only two kinds of "big news" a girl can have that she'd be worried wouldn't go over well:  Marriage or Preggo.

There's a slim possibility it might be something other than that, but Loveshack knows better than that at this point.

Loveshack is sad.

[Tank]

Tank feels sorry for Loveshack, knowing what he's gone through.

Tank gives Loveshack a hug.

[TK]

TK, in the same third person voice all responess should use, replies that unrequited love is a horrible thing that tends to haunt you, sometimes even after a relationship has been formed and broken.  The positive thing, he reflects, is that it won't kill you and the way you deal with it informs the kind of man you are.

[Jeff]

Have you tried kidnapping her, tying her to a chair and playing a homemade movie that expresses, in stupendous detail, how you feel for her? (don't forget to tape her eyelids open, pack an eyedropper) Other than that, I got nothin'.

He had a chance you never did. Seven years dude. You don't need a hug, you need a slap in the head. Probably most people could tell you they've gone through something similar, so we can sympathize, but you've really got to move past it.

[Chucara]

Chucara thinks Jeff is right. Once you're in the "friend" zone, you're stuck there. Start browsing for other girls - a proven technique is to start noticing girls who are prettier than her - that worked miracles on Chucara's first three marriages.

If that doesn't work, Chucara thinks the chair-tying thing is a good idea. MAKE her realize she loves you through gentle brainwashing.

[Jeff]

The Jeff is often right. Its just part of who he is and he refuses to apologize for it.

[TK]

The TK would add that you don't want to confuse love with infatuation, they may call it unrequited love but it's really infatuation, love is the thing that grows over time when you're with someone.  You may know someone incredibly well and love them as you would a family member but the kind of love that comes with a relationship is formed by knowing how they fit into your life as a partner.

Actual unrequited loves comes when you've loved and lost and you still find yourself wishing you were sharing your life with that person.  That really is no fun but it's something just about everybody will experience and have to deal with.

I'm not saying this to be mean or unkind but in this kind of situation it pays not to wrap a situation where there is no relationship in fancy emotional clothes. 

[Brugdor]

Brugdor pats Loveshack on the shoulder and explains that most of us have been there to some degree. Though he is sorry to hear that Loveshack is going through it now.

[Sweetpea]

Sweetpea asks if speaking in the third person is mandatory for this thread and ponders on the 7 years Loveshack has spent brooding over the girl.

the cynical Sweetpea thinks 7 years is a bit creepy but the Romantic Sweetpea slaps the Cynic out of the way and gives Loveshack a cuddle to make him feel better and tells him that she secretly hopes for a fairytale ending too  :nice: but dont tell anyone! 

[Sylvee Bee]

Sylvin wants to know how much, if any, dating Lovehshack has done of his own.

If she were to say anything, which she won't cause she isn't the sort to bud in, she'd say loveshack doesn't have the right to be angry, jealous or resent anyone in this situation.

He allowed himself to waste 7 years of his life - hiding being the 'safety' of 'loving' someone already.

It happens all the time - to almost every person on the planet. Sylvin has indeed likrd people who refused to see her for the obvious geat person she was. She allowed herself to mope, pine and flirt for most of a school year, then moved on to another crush.

If this gal in loveshacks life is gonna get married - he should be happy for her (as true love is really wanting someone you care about to be happy) obviously it's not Loveshack that makes her happy.

It happens - in fact, in these 7 years there were probably a handful of girls that loved loveshack....and we was blind to them.

lifes funny, and not always the haha funny.

[Doombot]

Doombot thinks Loveshack just pawn in game of life. Doom is sad. Doom want to give Loveshack big hug and treat him to Kauai burger. Doom have no Kauai burger. Alas, Doom is perplexed. How can Doom comfort friend Loveshack?

Doombot feels for Loveshack but thinks Loveshack should move on.

Doombot think there are Ms. Loveshack out there but if Loveshack spend much time on girl who not love Loveshack... Loveshack will miss her and never find her. Then future Ms. Loveshack will be sad because big hunking cute guy with blond hair not pay attention to her.

Why make future Loveshack sad?

Loveshack should date other girls and find future Loveshack.

[Sweetpea]

Doombot thinks Loveshack just pawn in game of life. Doom is sad. Doom want to give Loveshack big hug and treat him to Kauai burger. Doom have no Kauai burger. Alas, Doom is perplexed. How can Doom comfort friend Loveshack?

Doombot feels for Loveshack but thinks Loveshack should move on.

Doombot think there are Ms. Loveshack out there but if Loveshack spend much time on girl who not love Loveshack... Loveshack will miss her and never find her. Then future Ms. Loveshack will be sad because big hunking cute guy with blond hair not pay attention to her.

Why make future Loveshack sad?

Loveshack should date other girls and find future Loveshack.

Sweetpea heard Doombot in voice of Yoda.  Sweetpea found it both humourous and odd. 

Sweetpea also agrees with Sylviebee.  Sweetpea wouldn't have wasted 7 years on someone who didn't love her back, no matter how much she wanted that happy ending with that person.  if it didn't work out then it didn't work out.  Sweetpea agrees Loveshack shouldn't resent any of the other parties either, its not their fault.  Object of Loveshack's affections cant help how she feels about other guy.

like most things in life, make peace with what has happened and move on.

[Carib]

Carib thinks Loveshack's story is the every turning cog in the ever moving machine of life. Carib does sympathize with Loveshack, but Carib strongly urges Loveshack to move on or at least maintain that friendship (optional). Carib firmly believes there are other females out there, who may like Loveshack.

Time mends, and sometimes a friend who has known you a long time may have a hard time as seeing you as a possible mate. Friend for life, sure, but they tend to take you for granted and only turn to you when the chips are down. Carib has had a few like that and has learned to move on. Loveshack can move on, but he must let go.

[TK]

Doombot thinks Loveshack just pawn in game of life. Doom is sad. Doom want to give Loveshack big hug and treat him to Kauai burger. Doom have no Kauai burger. Alas, Doom is perplexed. How can Doom comfort friend Loveshack?

Doombot feels for Loveshack but thinks Loveshack should move on.

Doombot think there are Ms. Loveshack out there but if Loveshack spend much time on girl who not love Loveshack... Loveshack will miss her and never find her. Then future Ms. Loveshack will be sad because big hunking cute guy with blond hair not pay attention to her.

Why make future Loveshack sad?

Loveshack should date other girls and find future Loveshack.

Hulk say loveshack smah love!!

[Doombot]

Hulk say loveshack smah love!!

Loveshack smash puny human love!