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#91
Unwashed Village / Re: Introducing Myself
Last post by The Hanged Man - November 10, 2020, 11:38:09 PMWell, we usually allocate blame to whoever hasn't posted the longest.
So it's Chucara's fault you weren't verified.
Hope we'll have you around for a while to come.
So it's Chucara's fault you weren't verified.
Hope we'll have you around for a while to come.
#92
Unwashed Village / Re: Introducing Myself
Last post by Sharkee Jeff - November 08, 2020, 08:23:30 PMQuote from: Chucara on February 15, 2019, 09:43:46 PM
Welcome Ziggy. *obligatory random citrus pelting*
I'm really curious - how did you find us? We aren't exactly the most thriving community anymore.
No better time to respond to a comment than 19 months later, eh? I heard someone mention it in a video, a few years back, I don't remember exactly what it was about; maybe data mining or Fallout mystery solving. So I figured I'd register, and I was waiting to get verified for a long ass time.
#93
Unwashed Village / Re: Yo!!!
Last post by Gretchy Anklekicker - October 22, 2020, 08:51:04 PMI have Metro Exodus but didn't play it for long until I had the next shiny thing to play with. Played through Metro Last Light though. I liked the post apocalyptic feel of the Last Light and I'm planning to get back to Exodus some time soon.
#94
Unwashed Village / Re: What's going on in your li...
Last post by Hoopy Frood - October 18, 2020, 09:26:46 PMGood to see you, Petrarch.
Glad to hear the family's doing well.
Glad to hear the family's doing well.
#95
Unwashed Village / Re: What's going on in your li...
Last post by Petrarch - October 17, 2020, 03:49:10 AMQuote from: Hoopy Frood on October 08, 2020, 03:51:21 AM
I'm 44, and there's at least one grandparent from my high school class, and most of the others have children. (I graduated from a small public school of 206 students; there were 46 in my class, which was the smallest of the four classes. The freshman class had around 75 students.)
I don't even have kids yet...though Liz and I are planning on starting this month. She's 38, due to our age we're pretty much getting to the "now or never" stage.
I'm still not dead, but I am 40 now. A few flecks of individual grey hairs these days near my temples (right where I wanted them if I was going to get them as luck would have it) as a result of that and I still have the beard, but I'm otherwise in one piece.
I'm one of those older father type folks. After I got married, we started trying a few months later. I was 34 at this point and Mrs. P 32. After 3 years of failure, the twins took hold and were born, I turned 38 the following month. There was no reason, be it medical, social or whatever else you'd put a name to for how long it took, it was just simply bad luck. Some couples have an easier time of it than others, but getting pregnant isn't as easy as the world makes it look. Many of the folks I used to go to school with have older kids, but if I look back, had I had kids when I was in my early 20's, I probably wouldn't have been ready for it. Hell, I'm still learning this parenting thing and I don't always get it right, but they're both healthy and coming along well. One of them is better with their speech, the other is better with their motor skills.
They'll turn 30 in the year 2048, the same year I'll turn 68. It's scary biscuits when I think about it in those terms, but those days are still some way off.
Oh and hello for the first time in about 2.5 years.
#96
Unwashed Village / Re: What can we do to restore ...
Last post by TK - October 13, 2020, 09:55:09 PMNecro-threading! Maybe we can raise the forum from the dead by replying to all the old stuff, plus it makes us seem like wise old Ents who take a long time to form responses. People will be eager to see what wisdom we have to impart.... then... fart jokes! they'll be hooked, genius!
#97
Unwashed Village / Re: What would you ask your dy...
Last post by TK - October 12, 2020, 09:46:23 AMI think it would be:
Mother: As a parent myself I can't reconcile how your actions put me in harms way against your assertion that you had no idea what was happening, what the hell were you thinking?
Dad: Where were you? I can count the days I've spent with you on one hand, can you tell me why and who you were?
I grew apart from my mother when I noticed a growing disparity in how I approach being a parent and the things that happened in my childhood, she was emotionally abusive in her own right and, from the perspective of being an adult with three children, so neglectful in a very focussed way that she allowed life altering things to happen to me I'd never imagine a reasonable person would allow. I genuinely border on thinking she had full knowledge and either allowed it to perpetuate because of the natural benefit or because she gained direct benefit from it. She tried to stick herself too far in to the running of my own family so I've not spoken to her for nearly 10 years apart from when she called to tell me of a death in the family and tried to use that as a means to get back in to our live.
My father is Mr radio silence, I remember a handful of days with him when I was younger, he split from my mother before I was born, made an effort to see me born then had a very arms length relationship with me, found me moderately interesting when I got old enough to drink, made an appearance at my wedding then soon after had a tantrum when he couldn't come on a particular Sunday, that was soon after the wedding and I've been married 11 years and I have occasionally tried to reach out to him but... nothing.
I'm occasionally struck with sorrow for myself and that fact that my children don't have grandparents but I genuinely think they're better out of our lives but I'd still wish them well and hope that they find peace from whatever made them deeply flawed individuals.
Mother: As a parent myself I can't reconcile how your actions put me in harms way against your assertion that you had no idea what was happening, what the hell were you thinking?
Dad: Where were you? I can count the days I've spent with you on one hand, can you tell me why and who you were?
I grew apart from my mother when I noticed a growing disparity in how I approach being a parent and the things that happened in my childhood, she was emotionally abusive in her own right and, from the perspective of being an adult with three children, so neglectful in a very focussed way that she allowed life altering things to happen to me I'd never imagine a reasonable person would allow. I genuinely border on thinking she had full knowledge and either allowed it to perpetuate because of the natural benefit or because she gained direct benefit from it. She tried to stick herself too far in to the running of my own family so I've not spoken to her for nearly 10 years apart from when she called to tell me of a death in the family and tried to use that as a means to get back in to our live.
My father is Mr radio silence, I remember a handful of days with him when I was younger, he split from my mother before I was born, made an effort to see me born then had a very arms length relationship with me, found me moderately interesting when I got old enough to drink, made an appearance at my wedding then soon after had a tantrum when he couldn't come on a particular Sunday, that was soon after the wedding and I've been married 11 years and I have occasionally tried to reach out to him but... nothing.
I'm occasionally struck with sorrow for myself and that fact that my children don't have grandparents but I genuinely think they're better out of our lives but I'd still wish them well and hope that they find peace from whatever made them deeply flawed individuals.
#98
Unwashed Village / What would you ask your dying ...
Last post by Alderach - October 12, 2020, 02:52:03 AMHello all,
I've been away, but I am always here.
Many things have happened, there is another hat in the family... and my mother died. Last year, but it's still fresh in my mind.
Things haven't been looking so hot for dad either, the past few months. He never really lived alone before, and whilst liberating at first the loneliness has gotten to him and coupled with some health issues making him pretty much bedridden and with COVID haunting the outside and prohibiting most human interaction, well, he is deteriorating. Mom passed very suddenly, she got sick one day, was in the hospital for a week, got better, and then just died during the night. I had a good talk with her the day before, not knowing it was to be our last, though the thought had entered my mind.
With dad though? He is wasting. Becoming forgetful, weak, not eating well. I've set it up so he has daily care in the home now, to make sure he eats, and he will have a doctor checking in on him every now and then, but still, he is weak, and I don't know how much more time he has. I hate to think it, but I might lose him too, soon.
With my mother I have her diaries, and those she wrote for me. Dad writes a lot too, or wrote when he had the energy, but mostly theology and philosophy, though he has written some biographical musings as well.
It all leads me to this question; if you knew or at least suspected your parent(s) were dying, but knew there was still time before sense and sanity left them entirely, or health deteriorated to the point where they could no longer communicate meaningfully; what would you ask them? For those of you who have already lost a loved one, what did you wish you could have said?
My father is the type to hide his emotions, a product of his time and upbringing, but he is both kind and genuinely funny and has given me so much throughout my life - I hope everything turns out for the better but with the way 2020 is going... well, best be prepared for anything.
A hug for those that need or want it, safely electrical and distanced for these interesting times.
I've been away, but I am always here.
Many things have happened, there is another hat in the family... and my mother died. Last year, but it's still fresh in my mind.
Things haven't been looking so hot for dad either, the past few months. He never really lived alone before, and whilst liberating at first the loneliness has gotten to him and coupled with some health issues making him pretty much bedridden and with COVID haunting the outside and prohibiting most human interaction, well, he is deteriorating. Mom passed very suddenly, she got sick one day, was in the hospital for a week, got better, and then just died during the night. I had a good talk with her the day before, not knowing it was to be our last, though the thought had entered my mind.
With dad though? He is wasting. Becoming forgetful, weak, not eating well. I've set it up so he has daily care in the home now, to make sure he eats, and he will have a doctor checking in on him every now and then, but still, he is weak, and I don't know how much more time he has. I hate to think it, but I might lose him too, soon.
With my mother I have her diaries, and those she wrote for me. Dad writes a lot too, or wrote when he had the energy, but mostly theology and philosophy, though he has written some biographical musings as well.
It all leads me to this question; if you knew or at least suspected your parent(s) were dying, but knew there was still time before sense and sanity left them entirely, or health deteriorated to the point where they could no longer communicate meaningfully; what would you ask them? For those of you who have already lost a loved one, what did you wish you could have said?
My father is the type to hide his emotions, a product of his time and upbringing, but he is both kind and genuinely funny and has given me so much throughout my life - I hope everything turns out for the better but with the way 2020 is going... well, best be prepared for anything.
A hug for those that need or want it, safely electrical and distanced for these interesting times.
#99
Unwashed Village / Re: What's going on in your li...
Last post by TK - October 09, 2020, 06:20:08 AMI'm clinging on to the last few months of being 40, my children are 11,9 and 7. I realised yesterday that my mother was a grandparent by this age through both of my older brothers. A good few of my classmates have children planning their own weddings some have grandchildren. This all seems barely credible and I often make a silent humble request of the world to just stop for a bit, give us sunshine and a month of Sunday's so we can just breath but life seems to move fastest when you're standing still.
#100
Unwashed Village / Re: What's going on in your li...
Last post by Hoopy Frood - October 08, 2020, 03:51:21 AMQuote from: KMD on October 07, 2020, 07:29:28 PM
I'll be 30 in a few months. It doesn't matter to me much. The weirdest thing is how many people I knew from highschool are married with families now.
I'm 44, and there's at least one grandparent from my high school class, and most of the others have children. (I graduated from a small public school of 206 students; there were 46 in my class, which was the smallest of the four classes. The freshman class had around 75 students.)
I don't even have kids yet...though Liz and I are planning on starting this month. She's 38, due to our age we're pretty much getting to the "now or never" stage.